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I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?

No.  I don’t share a lot of my personal opinions on things because it really isn’t about me, but this is one that I feel strongly about and I think it could help.  I think the people who are willing to look at themselves and think “maybe it doesn’t have to be this hard” are the truly courageous.  Life should be an open book test!  Use all the resources available to you to reach as high as you can.  It can be very freeing, you might learn some things about yourself, and honestly nobody even needs to know we talked.  I’m certainly not going to tell them.  

What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?

There are a couple of major differences.  Firstly, a professional therapist has a lot of training and experience that friends and family typically don’t. Even if they did, outside of very surface listening and understanding, the professional family member will send you to another professional for one very good reason. You need someone that can give you the objectivity without being too close. Don’t get me wrong, I do care about my clients, but I’m not so close that my own experiences are influencing our interactions. Second, often in this process, something deep and vulnerable comes out.  If you share those things with a family member or friend, it may actually be helpful in the moment, but you'll never be able to go back and un-say it.  They'll never be able to un-hear it.  From that moment forward, the relationship with that person may be different.  Sometimes unfortunately that can lead to avoiding that person who used to be close to you, or when you do interact, there are awkward silences.  On the other hand, when you share those things with a professional, reach your goals, and move on with your best life, you can think of those vulnerable moments as locked in a vault and dropped to the bottom of the ocean never to see the light of day again if you choose.

Why shouldn’t I just take medication?

Medication can be effective for some people, but it alone cannot solve issues. Sometimes medication is helpful along with counseling to get over some major hurdle. Our work together is designed to explore and unpack the problems you are experiencing and expand on your strengths that can help you accomplish your personal goals.

How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?

Because each person has different issues and goals for counseling, it will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs.

How long will it take?

Unfortunately, I can’t answer that question in a general FAQ page.  Everyone’s circumstances and challenges are as unique as the individual themselves.  As a result, the approach, process, and time necessary to deal with those things are just as unique.  Some influential factors include your desire for personal development, your commitment to the process, external supports, and the reason you’re here in the first place.  

I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?

I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication will be crucial to your success.